A dastarkhan is not only food; it is respect for the guest. The more generous the table, the warmer the welcome. The problem is not generosity, but that after the third toast the plate turns into a test.
One simple move: when you set the table, put the vegetable dishes first and at eye level. Salad, grilled vegetables, herbs, pickles — whatever the hand reaches for automatically. Meat and pastry do not disappear; they simply stop being the only centre of the table.
Second move: a smaller plate. On a large one you want to fill the space; on a small one an ordinary portion looks sufficient. And do not finish your food out of politeness: a host prefers a guest who feels well to a guest who feels unwell.
Third: water on the table and a slower pace. The body needs time to register that there has been enough. Conversation at the table helps more than any diet.
A useful question for tonight. What goes on the table first — meat or vegetables?
When it is not only about the holiday. If a meal brings strong pain, heartburn keeps you awake, or you regularly eat more than you want, talk to a doctor. For urgent symptoms call 103 or 112.